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3 vital tips for navigating social media amid divorce

Nowadays, social media is a major part of everyday life for many people. If you are among them, you may not think twice before posting pictures, updating your friends about your plans for the evening or otherwise sharing your world, but doing so amid divorce may have unintended consequences.

To avoid having anything you post potentially come back to haunt you during divorce proceedings, consider taking the following actions with regard to your use of social media.

Hostile spouses could have major impact on family law proceedings

When marriages end on less-than-amicable terms, some individuals may feel the hurt from that situation for years to come. As a result, serious effects could stem from more than just the family law proceedings associated with the divorce. In some cases, one party may feel the need to voice his or her unpleasant thoughts with other individuals, which can have a widespread impact. 

California residents may understand that trash-talking exes are a dime a dozen. Unfortunately, it can still prove immensely difficult to handle the negative remarks. For instance, one man went through a situation in which his ex-wife deliberately spread lies about him in attempts to destroy his career. Additionally, parents may make disparaging comments to their children about the other parent or a stepparent, which can put children in a difficult position. 

California divorce does not have to mean the end of family

At some point in their lives, many California residents likely found themselves in a relationship that was simply no longer working. If the individuals were married, they likely went through the necessary divorce proceedings to dissolve their marriage. For some parties, this process may result in their never speaking again, but for parents, ending the marriage does not necessarily end their connection.

Though remaining connected to an ex-spouse could be difficult, one out-of-state family are trying to make the best out of the situation. Though the couple's marriage ended in divorce, they had a child while they were still married. As a result, the child's mother believes that she and her ex-husband continue to share an important bond. In hopes of having a positive impact on their 4-year-old son, they continue to have family portraits made together. 

Could divorce cakes help California residents end marriages?

Ending a marriage can create a myriad of emotions for each person such proceedings affect. Some California residents may feel devastated by the turn of events while others may feel as if they are finally free to move forward with their lives as they see fit. The latter view may be becoming more popular as a recent divorce trend has celebratory tones.

According to recent reports, divorce cakes are becoming more popular. Because many parties often utilize cake as a centerpiece for birthdays, baby showers or other celebrations, this new cake movement may indicate that more individuals are viewing divorce as a positive milestone rather than a life-hindering experience. The report also noted that the trend's popularity has grown as one bakery owner indicated that she has an entire section dedicated to such cakes.

Gray Divorce: Protecting yourself from its impact

Now that your children are grown and out of the home, you can finally divorce your spouse. You may think that your separation is going to be an easy and cheaper one because you no longer have the welfare of your kids to worry about. But divorcing your partner when you are older in life comes with its own set of challenges that you may not anticipate. Situations where couples over the age of 50 separate are known as gray divorces. Gray divorces are often challenging to deal with because the consequences of any decisions you make can affect you throughout your retirement years.

Learn about the steps you can take to protect yourself financially to minimize the impact of your gray divorce.

Making child custody decisions means doing the best for the kids

Being a loving parent is an aspect of life that many California residents hope to maintain. When going through divorce, some individuals may feel as if they are falling down on their parental duties or allowing their children to become overwhelmed by stress due to child custody decisions and other issues. When these feelings begin to creep in, concerned parents may want to consider certain co-parenting tactics.

Even if parents are divorced or are going through divorce, many individuals choose to co-parent. As a result, both parties continue to have a say in decisions regarding their children. This arrangement can sometimes prove tedious if disagreements come about, but parents may be able to make the situation more manageable if they learn to choose which battles need fighting and when it is acceptable to allow the other parent a win.

California residents may want to keep emotion out of divorce

In life, it can be immensely difficult to keep emotions out of certain situations. Divorce is one of those cases in which emotions can run high but keeping those feelings in check may be necessary. Therefore, California residents may wish to understand how playing to emotions could impact marriage dissolution outcomes and how they may be able to remain calm.

When individuals allow their emotions to rule their decision making, they may end up with regrets. Hasty choices can often lead to unforeseen consequences, and during divorce, such consequences could have long-term impacts on a person's life. Therefore, individuals may wish to ensure that they give each decision the proper amount of consideration and contemplate the future effects their decisions could have. 

Reasons you might need to modify your child custody order

Your divorce was finalized two or three years ago when your children had different needs. Now, you want to change the child custody or visitation agreement to better reflect your current situation. In general, if both parents agree in writing to the changes, you may not have to go to court to change the agreement. However, when you and the other parent cannot agree or there is serious interference in your visitation schedule, you may need to take the matter before a judge.

Child custody info may help avoid hasty actions in California

Only being able to spend limited time with their children can have considerable effects on parents. They may feel that their child custody terms are unfair or that changes should be made to allow them more time. Unfortunately, some individuals' distress over their situation may cause them to act rashly and make their situations more complicated. 

California residents may be interested in one situation relating to the custody of a 4-year-old girl. Reports stated that an AMBER Alert was issued after the girl was taken from a bus stop. Luckily, the child was found the next morning and did not suffer any harm. Authorities suspected that the individual who took the child was the young girl's mother, and the child was indeed located with her mother.

Post-nuptial agreements may serve as property division protection

Many California residents may have considered getting a prenuptial agreement before they tied the knot. However, for whatever reason, they may have foregone this option and entered into their marriage without any preparation for possible property division outcomes. Rather than feeling as if they missed an opportunity, though, individuals could consider creating a post-nuptial agreement. 

In a recent report, one couple gave their account of why this type of agreement worked for them. Separate businesses, other premarital property and children from a previous relationship all contributed to their decision to created a post-nuptial agreement. Both individuals felt it would be beneficial as protection for each other rather than thinking it necessary due to marital problems. 

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