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3 alternatives to traditional custody arrangements

When parents separate, the most important consideration is the well-being of their children. Many partners stay together for the sake of their kids, but when this becomes impossible, divorce necessitates a new approach to parenting. Shared custody was the default for a long time, but as divorce has become more common, more parents have sought alternatives. These three options may be a better fit for your family and provide your kids with the support they need.


Co-parenting is distinctly different from shared custody because of its emphasis on collaboration between exes. According to Psychology Today, focusing solely on kids — rather than conflicts between you and your former spouse — can greatly benefit your children and help them adapt to the changes that follow a divorce. This creates an environment that maintains some of the stability children expect from their home, and it prevents your personal differences with your ex from negatively affecting the kids, too.


Nesting is yet another option that has become increasingly common in recent times. It typically entails allowing kids to maintain their residence at the family home while each parent rotates living in the home with the children. This has proven to be particularly beneficial for kids as it offers the most stability, but it is not always realistic for parents to sustain the expenses of three separate households. Still, it is worth considering for the sake of your child. 

Alternative solutions

Different families work differently, and a one-size-fits-all approach to parenting will inevitably need amendment for some parents following a divorce. If you and your ex decide a rotating schedule or other arrangement will work best for your children and family, you may request such an agreement be approved in court.

Negotiating parenting arrangements after a divorce can be difficult, but a lawyer can help. Contact an attorney for representation in your divorce or custody case.

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