Children can face a considerable deal of stress in their lives. Though parents often want to lessen any discomfort their children may be feeling at any given time, certain situations may be unavoidable. For instance, if California parents decide to divorce, they will likely be unable to keep their children completely free from stress. However, they may have the ability to lessen the stress when it comes to child custody.
By communicating with each other, parents may help their children feel less stuck in the middle of a difficult situation. In some cases, parents who did not part ways amicably may feel as if they can use their children to convey messages to the other parent in order to avoid contact. However, this type of arrangement could be a setup for substantial stress and conflict.
If one parent gives a message to a child to relay to the other parent, there is a possibility that the child could misunderstand the message or forget to tell the other parent. As a result, a conflict could arise, and the child may feel as if he or she is to blame. Rather than taking this approach, parents may want to be more mindful of talking with each other, even if the conversations remain strictly to their kids' needs.
For parents who want to avoid placing their children in such situations, they may want to find out more information on co-parenting as a form of child custody. This type of arrangement allows the parents to work together to ensure that their kids continue to get the care and love they need and deserve. Of course, the plausibility of such an arrangement proving successful depends on the specific circumstances of each case, and therefore, divorcing California parents may wish to consult with their legal counsel on options.
Source: Lamorinda, CA Patch, "Children Are Not Mailboxes: Divorced Parents Must Communicate With Each Other", Susan C. Schena, June 26, 2017