As parents of a young child, you want to do what is right for them when it comes to custody and visitation. You both decided that sharing custody is a good idea, but you're not sure how you'll manage it. You both have to work, and you'll both live across town from one another.
Nesting can be a great option to meet in the middle if you have the money to do it. It refers to keeping your family home and switching off with your ex-spouse when you have custody of your child. You'll both need to maintain your own separate residences, but on the days you have custody, you'll come back to the family home.
What makes nesting so helpful for children?
Divorces create many changes all at once, including changing a child's routine. If you can keep them in the same home and maintain as much normalcy as possible, then the divorce may have less of an impact psychologically.
Whom does nesting work for?
Nesting generally works for parents who can still get along and who are happy to interact when exchanging time at the family home. Most people who nest are well-off, because they have enough money to support their own apartment or separate home as well as the family home. If your family home is already owned or if you own separate property, it might be a good option to help with your child's adjustment to a divorce.
Should nesting last forever?
It doesn't have to. Changes can be sudden in a divorce, so nesting for a year or two can help your child adjust. Then, when you or your ex-spouse want to move or change the way the custody arrangements are handled, you might opt to live close together but have only two homes. The changes would happen after your child has adjusted to having divorced parents, making the move easier. You can even decide on a parenting plan that states when you might sell the home or when you'll try to help your child adjust to a normal visitation plan.
Your attorney will talk to you more about nesting and if they believe it would be a good fit based on the circumstances of your case. If you and your spouse believe it's a good choice, then you can move forward with the nesting plan and submit it for approval with the court.