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Ask these 3 questions before you choose divorce

Deciding to divorce is by no means simple. There are many factors to consider. That's why it's best to make sure that a divorce is actually what you want. For many couples, a divorce may seem to be the right answer, but for others, certain interventions may help them stay together and even remain married in the future with fewer disagreements, disputes or problems.

Before you talk to your spouse, you need to know that you're making the decision you're happy with. Your situation is unique and complex, but answering these questions could help you decide if a divorce is really the best path forward for yourself and your family.

1. Do you want to stay married to your spouse?

If you still aren't sure if a divorce is right, it's best to consider alternative ways to address problems in your marriage first. If you announce that you want a divorce and then change your mind later, you may find that doesn't work out well for you due to hurt feelings. Your spouse may be upset and decide to carry out the divorce even if you decide it's not what you want.

2. Have you tried to speak with your spouse about your concerns?

Another thing to consider is if you've spoken with your spouse about your concerns. Speak to them about what worries you, whether it's money, raising your children or other issues that are bothering you. They may not be aware that you worry about these things or that they were not being helpful or supportive in the ways you needed in the past. Sometimes, a discussion is a good way to move forward in a more positive manner and to be more communicative.

3. Have you prepared for the financial stress of a divorce?

Even a divorce without fighting or disagreements has the potential to be a drain on your finances. Remember, your budget will change as you move out of your home or have to separate your finances. Accounting for those changes in your finances before bringing up divorce with your spouse helps prevent them from playing a role in the decision to divorce or not.

Overall, the decision you're making is one that requires time and thoughtful consideration. Thinking about the reasons you want to get divorced and making sure you've done all you can to make your marriage work is worth the time.

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